So… it happened.
They asked, you said YES, and suddenly you’re staring at your hand wondering how something so sparkly can also feel so… overwhelming.
After the happy tears, the phone calls, the group chats, and approximately 47 “OMG when’s the wedding?!” questions… reality kicks in:
What do we actually do next?!
Take a breath, you’ve got this. Let’s break it down..
Step 1: Dream First, Plan Second
Before you dive headfirst into Pinterest boards and venue tours, sit down together and talk about what matters to you both.
Think of it like your wedding wish list:
Must-haves (non-negotiables)
Nice-to-haves (lovely but not essential)
Hard no’s (absolutely not happening)
And yes, this includes your guest list. You don’t need a final headcount yet, but having a rough idea will make everything else so much easier.
Step 2: What’s Your Vibe?
Ask yourselves: Are you dreaming of an English Country Garden, surrounded by blooms and countryside charm? Or something totally unique?
Are you looking for an all inclusive venue that gives you the help and support along with everything you logistically need for your day?
Location matters too. If you’re planning a wedding in Kent, do you want to keep it close to home or venture somewhere further afield?
And what about the when?
Spring blooms
Summer sunshine
Autumn colours
Winter magic
Even the day of the week can make a difference and yes, weekday weddings are a thing!
Take a look at our Wedding Brochure for package inspiration and guidance.
Step 3: The Budget Chat (The Big One)
Not the most glamorous topic but one of the most important.
Be honest about what you’re comfortable spending and break it down into key areas like: Venue, Photographer & Entertainment.
Having this conversation early will save you a lot of stress later and help you stay on track.
Our Secret Garden Wedding Calculator is expertly decide to give you accurate pricing whilst allowing you flexibilty to design your day your way.
Step 4: Let the Venue Hunt Begin!
This is where it starts to feel real.
Scroll, search, save… and then shortlist your favourites.
Start booking viewings and exploring your options.
At Secret Garden, we offer viewings every day! It’s very easy to book a viewing either call, email, what’s app, message via social us or our ‘easy to use’ online booking system allows you to scan appointments and book direct: click here to BOOK A VIEWING today!
Top tip: Many of the most popular wedding venues in Kent can book up 12–24 months in advance, especially for summer Saturdays. Your venue locks in your date, style and guest numbers, so prioritise this decision.
Step 5: Build Your Dream Team
Once your venue is secured, it’s time to find your suppliers.
From photographers to florists, bands to bakers, choose people whose style matches your vision and who you genuinely feel comfortable with.
Also worth thinking about now: Sending out those all-important save the dates! Guest accommodation & transport.
Our Local Accommodation Brochure and handy Guest Guide should help.
Step 6: The Practical Bits
Not the most exciting, but definitely important:
Decide on your ceremony type & look into legal requirements and licensing
And to help, we’ve created a Ceremony Guide just for you to answer all of those questions and queries.
You don’t need to finalise everything immediately, but keep it on your radar.
Step 7: Your Wedding Website Era
Trust me, this will make your life easier.
A wedding website keeps everything in one place:
RSVPs
Guest info
Timings
Travel details
Plus, many come with planning tools (hello, seating charts).
Here at The Secret Garden, we use our own Wedding Planning Portal to take all of that stress away and make organising your day fun and care-free.
Take a look at our Frequently Asked Questions for helpful hints on those finer details.
The bonus of booking a venue with a Wedding Coordiantor? We are here to help you too!
Step 8: Invitations & The Countdown
Around 6 months before the big day, it’s time to send your official invites.
Make sure they include:
Clear timings
RSVP details
Menu choices (if needed)
Who’s invited to what (avoid awkward confusion later!)
Step 9: Dress Shopping (Finally!)
Arguably one of the most magical moments.
Start early! Many dresses take up to 6 months to arrive, plus time for alterations.
Once you’ve found the one, you can coordinate:
Bridesmaid dresses
Groomswear
Wedding rings
Step 10: The Final Details
As RSVPs roll in, you’ll move onto:
Seating plans
Final menu choices
Last minute logistics
Expect a little guest chasing, it’s all part of the process!
In the weeks leading up to your wedding, you’ll have final meetings with your venue and suppliers to confirm everything:
Timings
Setup
The running order
Make notes, ask questions, and tie up any loose ends so you can actually enjoy the days before your wedding.
And Most Importantly…
Wedding planning doesn’t have to be stressful.
Whether you’re planning an intimate celebration, an all-day extravaganza or something in between, this is your time to celebrate your love and start your next chapter together.
Work as a team, take your time with decisions, and don’t forget to enjoy the journey.
Start your journey today and view one of the leading wedding venues in Kent.
Before you know it… you’ll be walking down the aisle saying:
“I do.”
